Your comment captures a vital truth about adoption: every adoptee’s journey is unique. It’s wonderful that your son grew up with openness about his adoption and seems to have found peace in the story you’ve shared with him. His curiosity about his biological family—and his decision to shy away from it—is something many adoptees navigate at different points in their lives.

As adoptive parents, the love and support you provide are central to your child’s sense of security and identity. By being honest with him from an early age, you’ve given him the foundation to explore his story on his own terms. His decision to step back from exploring his biological family could mean a variety of things: maybe he’s content where he is, maybe he feels unsure about what he might find, or maybe he’s leaving the door open for another time in his life when those questions feel more urgent or manageable.

The thing about adoption is that it’s not static—it’s a journey that changes over time. Questions that feel distant now might resurface later, perhaps as life milestones like college graduation, relationships, or even parenthood bring new perspectives. There’s no single “right” way to process adoption; some adoptees seek connection with their biological families while others don’t, and both choices are valid.

What matters most is that he knows he has your support no matter how he feels about it—whether he decides to revisit those questions or chooses not to. That sense of safety and unconditional love creates the foundation for him to navigate his story in the way that feels best for him.

Adoption is full of complexity, and your son’s path reflects his own unique way of balancing his history and his present. By creating a space where he feels seen and supported, you’ve given him the greatest gift an adoptive parent can provide: the freedom to be himself, in all the ways he chooses to define that.