Stop blaming adoptees, this is a loss you cannot possibly fathom. Adoption is a flawed social construct and you simply can not expect that love and acceptance alone will fix the trauma. If you d, you are extremely nieve.

Blaming adoptee anincisipus argument. When adoptees challenge the idea of the perfect scenario because of the trauma we suffer far out-ways the promise of a better life.

We are used as plot thickeners and villains in our own story!

People fight against the will of the very thing that they “should” have sworn to “love and protect”! The child! Us! It’s quite psychotic!

Adoptees expect to be heard not talked at.

It's your family's commitment to sit with her in her trauma, no matter what. THIS IS ADOPTION.