Is your Family Ready to Adopt?

The Importance of Being Prepared for the Emotional Journey of Adoption.

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When thinking about adoption and its issues, it is important for a normal family to bring in ideologies that prioritize validation, understanding, and support for adoptees. Here are some specific ways in which a normal family can apply these ideologies in their family system:

1. Acknowledge and validate adoptees’ experiences and feelings: A normal family can create a safe and supportive environment for adoptees to share their feelings and experiences related to adoption, without fear of judgment or invalidation. This means acknowledging that adoption can be a complex and emotional experience that can have a lasting impact on adoptees and that it is important to validate adoptees’ feelings and experiences, rather than dismissing or invalidating them. (YES, YOU!)
2. Provide resources and support: A normal family can provide adoptees with access to counselling, therapy, and support groups to help them process their experiences and emotions related to adoption. This can include finding and connecting adoptees with other adoptees or individuals who understand their struggles and providing them with the tools and support they need to navigate the complex emotions that can come with adoption. (THIS IS NOT OPTIONAL)
3. Educate the family on adoption: A normal family can educate themselves about the history and impact of adoption, and work to dispel stereotypes and misconceptions about adoptees. This can include learning about different types of adoptions, the experiences of adoptees and birth families, and the ongoing issues related to adoption. (THIS IS THIS, ESPECIALLY NOT OPTIONAL)
4. Encourage open communication: A normal family can create an environment where open communication is encouraged and family members feel comfortable discussing their feelings and experiences related to adoption. This can include discussing adoption openly and honestly within the family and encouraging family members to seek out support and resources if they need them. (THIS INCLUDES CURRENT ADOPTIONs)
5. Respect adoptees’ privacy: A normal family can respect adoptees’ privacy and rights when it comes to their adoption stories. Adoptees should have the autonomy to share or not share their story, and to determine how much information they want to disclose. It is important for families to understand that adoptees have the right to control the narrative of their own adoption story and should be respected in that decision. (THIS IS WHERE YOU PULL YOUR HEAD IN)
6. Support birth families and adopted families: A normal family can recognize and support the ongoing impact of adoption on birth families and adopted families. This includes providing resources and support for birth families and adopted families, as well as educating themselves about the diverse experiences and perspectives related to adoption. (THE GOAL HERE IS FAMILY PRESERVATION OVER NEEDLESS FAMILY SEPARATION)

By bringing in these ideologies, a “NORMAL” family can create a supportive and understanding environment for adoptees, and help them to process and heal from the trauma and issues related to adoption.

(THE LOOPHOLE HERE IS THAT MOST FAMILIES ARN’T NORMAL)

Barriers to Adoption

There are several barriers that can prevent a normal family from creating a supportive and understanding environment for adoptees, despite their best intentions. Some examples include:

1. Lack of education and understanding: A normal family may not have the knowledge or understanding of the complex issues related to adoption, and may not know how to support adoptees in a meaningful way. They may not know about the different types of adoptions, the experiences of adoptees and birth families, or the ongoing issues related to adoption. (SO WHY DOES VOCATIONAL EDUCATION HAVE NO INCLUSION OF THE FULL EFFECTS OF ADOPTION?)
2. Societal pressure and stereotypes: A normal family may be influenced by societal pressure and stereotypes about adoptees, and may not recognize or validate the unique experiences and emotions of adoptees. They may be under the impression that adoptees should be grateful for being adopted, or that they should not be upset about losing their birth family. (COME ON! YOU DO THIS TOO RIGHT?)
3. Limited access to resources: A normal family may not have access to the resources and support that adoptees need to process their experiences and emotions related to adoption. This can include counselling, therapy, and support groups for adoptees, which may be scarce or non-existent in their area. (I BET YOU CAN’T FIND ANY?)
4. Lack of open communication: A normal family may not have an environment where open communication is encouraged and family members feel comfortable discussing their feelings and experiences related to adoption. This can make it difficult for adoptees to share their thoughts and emotions with the family and can make it hard for the family to understand and support them. (DO YOU MAKE IT DIFFICULT?)
5. Resistance to change: A normal family may be resistant to change and may not be open to new ideas or ways of thinking about adoption. They may be stuck in traditional views about adoption and may not be willing to look at it from a different perspective or to consider the ongoing impact of adoption on all parties involved. (ARE YOU WILLING TO CHANGE?)
6. Financial barriers: A normal family may face financial constraints that may limit their ability to access resources and support for adoptees. They may not be able to afford counselling, therapy, and support groups. (WHY DO ADOPTEES NEED TO PAY FOR THERAPY FOR TRAUMA THEY NEVER AGREED TO?)
7. Adoptee’s reluctance: Adoptees themselves may be resistant to open up or may not want to discuss their adoption experiences, which can make it difficult for families to support them. (THIS IS ADOPTION FOG, YOU HAVE IT TOO!)

Overcoming these barriers requires education, awareness and willingness to change. Families need to understand that adoption is a complex and ongoing issue, and that it requires open communication, understanding, and support from all parties involved. Families should also be aware of the resources that are available to them and should work to connect with other families and professionals who understand the issues related to adoption.

Adoption is not just a legal process, it is a lifetime commitment. If a family is not ready to listen, understand, and support their adoptee, they should NOT, absolutely under any circumstances adopt. Adoptees deserve to be heard, understood, and supported, and families have a responsibility to provide that support.

Adoption should only be considered by those who are willing to make a lifelong commitment to the well-being and happiness of their adoptee. Regardless of any future outcome, even if that means that the adoptee returns to their family of origin. You can not hold this against them or worse, stand in their way.

CAN YOU COMMIT TO A PARDIME THAT PERPOSFULLY DISENFRANCHES HUMAN BEINGS?

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